My friend Tina Robbins is a Transformational Energy Coach, she works with clients who want to transform their energy from negative to positive.
 Tina Robbins My first experience with Tina, the coach, was when I signed up for her personalized Energy Assessment; I was feeling an abundance of the wrong kind of energy, I felt pulled in a million directions and I couldn’t keep up with my mood swings from depression to mania. I needed some guidance to bring me back in alignment with positive energy forces.
Taking An Energy Assessment
She focuses the Energy Assessment on ways of understanding your own energy stressors by use of The Energy Leadership Index, and teaches through your personal answers about what you can do to respond to your personal stressors instead of simply reacting to them.
I felt a new sense of understanding after this Energy Assessment. I could plainly see with her guidance in reading my results where I thought I was (which was actually where I strived to be), where I actually was, where I was spending my energy, and how to start taking steps to be where I wanted to be. This was eye opening and a huge step for me in noticing from then on out how my energy was flowing with-in me and around me.
Later, I signed up for her Individual Coaching, Road Mapper, a 6-session intensive action plan to work through a specific time in your life.
Why Bother Transforming?
I signed up because I needed more intensive coaching for an upcoming event: a trip to another state for a week with family, and a wedding surrounded by even more family members who came for that event specifically.
The last time I had been in that situation I flew down to the event with a positive outlook. But after some days I had a complete melt-down and was a real bitch (though at the time, I couldn’t see that). During those first days I was there I had let myself become so depleted in energy that I became extremely depressed.
By the time I had my melt-down I didn’t even want to be touched, because every time someone touched me it zapped my strength and made me feel worse. I sat around one whole day avoiding everyone and crying.
The next day I was being fed Xanex by my Aunt so I could participate in the family events. Being on the Xanax made the most annoying sounds like a blurry mind-numbing song. Everything was a-okay (sarcasm intended).
Before this new family event, I had spent a year learning to use skills to overcome anxiety attacks and ground myself so that I no longer needed to take Xanex (I had been prescribed it after that first event). I still had a supply left over, “just in-case” and I didn’t want to go back to using it again. I had worked so hard in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) to overcome needing it (I still brought it as a back-up).
This time, I knew I didn’t want to have another melt-down or have to take Xanex to calm down into a zoned-out state-of-mind.
Taking Major Steps Forward
I had been going through huge changes and taking major steps forward in my life since the last family trip and wedding, but I was still dealing with residual crap and negativity and I wanted to get things figured out, get down to the root of the issues, re-claim my own energy, and take back my self-confidence so that I could really enjoy the whole trip and spend time with my family without feeling depleted or becoming depressed.
Through her coaching sessions, I was able to figure out the root of many issues surrounding why I became so depleted previously, and how to reclaim my energy and self-confidence again. She helped me reinforce my tool-chest with new skills and techniques for staying grounded and maintaining my energy flow. I practiced and practiced for days before the trip, so when I flew down there I was prepared.
And Then… Success!
When I went on this years family trip, I stayed grounded the whole time, I never once took a Xanex, and I maintained my sanity even when unexpected events reared their ugly heads.
I had one moment where I was exhausted from the flight, and a barrage of people to engage with that I went and cried for about 30 minutes. But, I had a short session with Tina on the phone, talked to my Step-Dad about the specific frustrations, and was able to go back and engage with my family again.
Through that trip I was able to prove to myself that I could maintain my energy, stay positive, and get over any hurdles in my path. My self-confidence increased after that trip as well.
I am so thankful to Tina for helping me see it through to the end and for being there when I needed an extra boost. Since the trip, I have continued to use the skills and techniques I learned, and I feel 100 times stronger than I was just a few months ago.
What are you doing to transform? Answer in the comments below.
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 Growth is an important part of being an artist and entrepreneur, and it’s also an important part of being human. I strive for growth in small accomplishable steps; I believe in taking lots of small steps, even one small step every day, each one is an important part of the process in moving forward towards your goals.
Over the last year I have been blessed with many opportunities for exponential growth. There have been many wonderful people along the way that have helped me learn to overcome challenges, and I want to say thank you to them all.
The coaches, communities, on-line courses, and guides that I have interacted with and learned from are below. These are some wonderful resources that I am especially thankful for and I highly recommend to taking your own steps towards your goals.
Coaches:
Tina helped me learn about my energy and how to manage it better. I learned that the real power is in taking control of your energy, where it goes, what you’re holding onto, who already has it, who you give it to, how you give it to them; there are so many facets that I had never thought of before until Tina coached me through each step, going through each layer of “crap” that I had been holding onto. I highly recommend her coaching sessions if you are feeling depressed; like other are “leaching” your energy; you don’t know why you’re so tired; you want to stop generating or attracting negative energy and start generating and attracting positive energy. Click here now.
When I had a clarity session with Yolanda I was able to learn much about what was holding me back. I discovered that I lacked boundaries; I was able to realize where my focus was and where I wanted it to be; I’ve become better able to discern what projects I wanted to tackle and which to let go of; I was able to expand my thinking about my fears in opening up to people and being myself. She helped me learn to set boundaries and how to hold myself accountable to keeping them. I highly recommend her services for finding the truth about ourselves and reasons why we might not be able to face them. Click here now.
Communities:
 Art Empowers Me* by Melissa Dinwiddie & Cory Huff
As a member of Art Empowers Me I have been able to learn so many lessons from experienced artists who have been successful in their own businesses, how to overcome obstacles that I face as an artist, and so much more. The monthly coaching calls are something I never miss because I always learn something new. I recommend this community to artists who want to learn about being an artist in business. Click here now.
I have so many interests, and not just in the visual arts field, I also love to write, design websites, fiber arts like sewing & crocheting, making jewelry, building businesses, inventing, and the list goes on. Learning that I was, what Emilie calls, a “multipotentialite” helped me to overcome my fears of doing business as a generalist and not a specialist. Being part of the multipotentialite community has shown that I am not the only one out there and I love to interact with everyone and I learn so much there. If you are unable to “pick just one” I recommend checking out the Putty Tribe. Click here now.
On-line Courses:
If your stuck in a day job and want to break free into running your own business but don’t know where to start or what to do, Trailblazer is the course you’ve been waiting for. Since taking the Trailblazer course I have a new outlook on running my business. Instead of following what everyone else is doing, I pay more attention to my personal goals and plans. Jonathan teaches the course in 6 monthly lessons, including video, worksheets, weekly mentorship calls and there is an amazing and growing community to meet other trailblazers just like you. To find out more and sign-up, click here now.
 ADD VIP Club* by Jacqueline Sinfield & Marcia Hoeck
After following Jacqui and Marcia for some months on their “Ask Marcia & Jacqui Anything” webinars, I was pleased to learn about this new course they built. Even though I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD I do find that I have many of the same types of productivity management concerns. Since I have been taking their course, I have been more productive using the techniques and skills they teach. It comes in 26 bite sized lessons with a once a week e-mail notification for the next lesson. If you become distracted easily, have trouble focusing, and need that extra push to motivate yourself, then this is the course for you. Click here now.
Guides:
The Tao of Awesome is all about accomplishing tasks, productivity management, overcoming your stress, and kicking ass and taking names in your life, business, finances, health and relationships. If you’ve struggled with productivity and your to-do-list is never ending like mine, then you seriously need to take a look at this guide. Its an e-mail course that comes over time so that you have time to implement each step that Johnny guides you through to taking back your time. I recommend this for everyone. Click here now.
Being a quintessential multipotentialite I felt the need to find out more about the structure of building a business as a generalist and not a specialist. Reading the Renaissance Business by Emilie Wapnick helped me do just that. I learned how to discern an over-arching theme for my business (mine is “Artists in Business”) and to embrace all that I am, it has helped me so much in moving forward. If you are a generalist instead of a specialist and want to build a business around all your interests, I recommend reading the Renaissance Business. Click here now.
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This month marks my one year anniversary of living in Cincinnati Ohio. I was born and raised in Minneapolis, MN – The Twin Cities – the only other place I’ve ever lived was Louisiana, and that was when my ex was in the Air Force. This was the first time in my life I decided to move away from home on my own.
Since moving I’ve come a long way.
 Mountain Road in Hot Springs Arkansas - Original Photography by Emily Rose I came to Cincinnati for many reasons; to get away from negativity, haunting memories, to start fresh, to heal, and to grow.
I really needed to break free from all that was holding me back. I had many barriers holding me down, I was diagnosed with so many disorders I couldn’t remember them all, it plagued me. I would be depressed, lacking any self-confidence; and then I would swing to mania, and become over confident. I was emotionally and mentally stuck in the past abuse I experienced.
I needed some room to breathe and learn to embrace my true self again.
Guided By Intuition
It was a huge decision to pick up my life and move it to an unknown city, with no friends and no family. I felt suffocated by my past and needed a place to heal; to get away from all influences that were holding me in chains to all that crap I lived with for so many years. By listening to my intuition, I was able to let the universe guide me.
I let intuition take over because my high-level thinking was too muddied to think clearly; so I went with my gut.
It’s Just What The Doctor Ordered
Its hard to express how thankful I am that I followed my gut instead of my head at that time in my life. I am sure many people thought I was crazy out of my mind, and to be honest, I was. Which is why I needed to find a place to heal my mind, heal my emotions, and heal my soul. I found that place in Cincinnati Ohio, a nondescript place as you can get compared to growing up and living in the Twin Cities.
I don’t know where I would be today had I let my logical brain guide me, maybe I would still be stuck in the past, stuck in despair and swinging wildly from depression to mania. Following my gut allowed me to let the universe guide me through my own intuition; guiding my actions and bringing me to a place of peace and healing.
There have been many wonderful people along the way that have helped me learn to overcome challenges and I want to say thank you to them all.
Following Your Gut Trumps Following Your Logic
Is there something in your life that you feel is holding you back? Does your logical brain explain the day away about why you “should” stay where you are – be it a place, with a person, at a particular job, in a negative environment, hanging out with negative people – what ever the case may be, are you listening to your head or to your gut?
You’re personal well being is more important then negative friends, or terrible work environments, or staying with abusive and demeaning partners, or living surrounded by negative memories.
Break free from the chains that are holding you back. Start listening to your gut.
On Thursday I will be sharing some wonderful resources that helped me through the last year, I am especially thankful for and highly recommend them.
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This week we have a reader question from Annie, a 2D illustrator who draws various subject matter. She has recently been delayed from her current business endeavors by her health but aspires to make some income if she can on the side with her art. She writes asking me for advice on how she can start selling her art work.
Annie
Hey Emily,
I thought I would come to you for advice. I’m really tempted to try and make some money with my art on the side. The only question is how?
It seems like these days, the only way to make money with your art is by selling T-shirts or something. I know that appeals to some artists, but I am not one of them. At least, right now I’m just not in the mood to do that sort of thing with my art, and none of the
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Her reflection stared back at her, teary-eyed and depressed. Why? Why?! WHY?! Oh God, why did this happen to me? The thoughts streaming in her mind, they couldn’t find a way out – insufferable – quiet, she had to be quiet; it was 2am. Why am I awake? More tears started to flow.
Just days earlier it happened, the betrayal, her love, her husband – he betrayed her, he struck her yet again, after all those apologies and promises to get better – he stuck her. Her hair covered the gingerly placed stitches, and the ice had calmed most all of the bruising and swelling already – she lifted her bangs so she could see them in the mirror, the tragedy of her marriage – in three stitches – as if the stitches were supposed to make it all better; nothing made sense
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Image by Jennie
I’ve learned a lot in the last 7 weeks by interviewing other artists, we all have such different relationships with our art.
Not every every artist has a deep relationship with their art, some artists used to be more involved emotionally than they are now and some artists live very much through the art they create.
I got some great responses from readers too:
When asked “Do you live through your art?“ Joy said, “I believe and practice that each creation absorbs the energy that I create with; what I wish to share is life enriching and spirit enlivening so I create from a physical place of peace and my essence is in each creation.”
When asked “Are you emotionally attached to your art?” Alvin Black III states, “Im recovering from precious art syndrome. I think doing a lot more work has allowed me to be
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After so many questions related directly to our art, I wanted to ask about how other artists deal with mental and/or emotional stressors. I know first hand that there can be a lot of things going on in life that can trigger stress, and even though art itself can be an excellent way to relieve stress, it’s not the only way.
I learned to use various techniques, besides art, while in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and used them very often when dealing with stress. Included are breathing techniques, grounding techniques and so much more. How do other creatives deal with stress, do they create art, or use similar techniques that I learned in DBT?
I would love to hear your answer to the question “What techniques do you use that have helped you when facing mental or emotional stressors?” Post your answer in the comments below.
What techniques do you
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Sometimes it can be hard to admit, but when we’re stressed, have a ton of crap on our minds and/or our emotions are out of whack, we are just not very creative. And try as we might, as much as we know getting into some kind of creativity will help us feel better, its just super difficult to be that creative person we know is deep inside us.
On the other hand, being in a certain types of mental or emotional states may spur on creativity! Depression may have a bolstering effect to everything you create. It may even spur some creativity you didn’t know you had in you.
I am bipolar, and in the past have been in both these predicaments in a cyclical nature. The times when I am too emotionally and mentally stressed to create anything and those times when I am on the cusp of severe
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I Support The Student Loan Forgiveness Act of 2012
Yesterday I signed and openly supported this Act on Facebook and Twitter. Then I got a lot of flak flying my way from my elders, who appeared to not have read what The Student Loan Forgiveness Act of 2012 actually does. Instead I was “respectfully disagreed” with on all accounts.
I feel that there is a need to go over a few of the issues raised in this debate from an open view point as I possibly can. Of course I could write so much more, but lets just see where this goes.
“Who Has The “Right” To A College Education?”
This isn’t a matter of what is “right” or “wrong” – who has the “right” to a college education? To be perfectly honest, everyone deserves the same “right” to education as everyone else. For one thing, how is this country
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The last 4 weeks, I’ve been talking with other artists about various aspects of our relationship with our art. We’ve talked about what its like to live through our art, having an emotional attachment to our art, handling rejection from others, and separating how someone feels about our creations vs how they feel about us.
Digging into all these aspects has been very enlightening for me, for some reason I’ve thought that everyone felt the same way about their relationship to their art as I have to mine. I was wrong, and thankfully so, it would be dull indeed if we all thought the same! After all these pieces of the picture, I wanted to get a “big picture” view of how an artist see’s their relationship with their art.
Personally, I view my relationship with my art as a continually shifting experience, sometimes it is very personal and has
[Continue reading Defining the Relationship: An Artist’s Relationship With Their Art – #5]
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